Thoughts & Things

Do you treat what you cherish with love and care??

 It amazes me how us as humans take so much for granted... Myself included. We will work so hard to buy the car that we want but once we have it, it doesn't even get a simple wash.  Then there's the woman that has been wanting this certain guy in her life and when she has him, she'll treat him as if she's his mom instead of the equal. Fellas, we'll stalk a woman until she's ours and then sleep with her girlfriend a year after she gives us her heart, lol. Just some shit that was on my mind this morning...

Thoughts & Things.....

Inspiration from the homie Rahfael Gordon....

Thoughts & Things...

 I previously wrote some thoughts here and about 20 minutes ago I recieved an email in response to my thoughts. Below are both what I wrote as well as the email that I recieved from my friend and a fellow blogger...  BloggItPrincess

 "So, I woke up this morning thinking about sexiness... Those little quirky things I find so sexy about a woman. Those of you who know me and are reading this probably are thinking at some point I will say something about a big butt. Well, let's get that out of the way now, I Love A Great Ratio(booty:waist). Now that we're done with that, some of the more importantly sexy things about women that us guys never express usually has nothing to do with physical looks. Of course we all are physically attracted to a person but I strongly feel to keep that attraction there is more to it.... attitudes, scent, walk, voice, goals just to name a few.

 Got to love a woman with a strong personality and can make great decisions on her own while achieving goals that she has set out to achieve. However a woman that knows how to Let A Man Be A Man; Do His Man Thing... my God!!! When I say that, I mean a woman that has no problem with allowing her man to take garbage out, shovel the snow, take the son to the barbershop, maintain the cars... you know man stuff. We take great pride in these things. All the while she is doing her Woman Thing... keeping the home cleaned, taking care of the kids, making sure her man is happy. This woman must also be happy for these ideals to work out. Usually simple things will keep her happy such as long talks, longer listens, subtle compliments...

 As far as the scent goes, ladies choose wisely. I have been a fan of Lotus... you know the flower bomb until Wale's smash song and the smell has become too popular. In recent days, Sexual Sugar by Michel Germain is what drives me crazy. This smell literally says eat me, I'm sexy!!! The walk and what she chooses to walk in is very important as well... sneakers do nothing for me, I barely wear them anymore. That walk in a pump, stiletto or wedge tho, along with the "I'm sexy and I know it" look on her face.... sheesh!!!! This is the type of woman that you never even realized she's only 5'1.... the whole time you thought she was 5'6. Also, delivery is everything. How words are said means so much more than what is being said. ex: "I love you and everything about you [insert name]" is far greater than "boy, you know I love ya."



Ladies, preserve your sexiness!!! Yes, us guys do pay attention."




So You Wanna Be a Man Huh…

 So I was surfing the internet last night and ran across a blog post that hit a slight nerve. The blog was based on women being sexy and how women have to let men be men. That term let a man be a man is really starting to get on my nerves. How many men are actually being MEN these days? I understand that there are some women out there that have taken the whole “independent” role to another level; however some of them have had no choice.



 There are millions of Single Mothers and there are tons of Single Women due to the fact that some men have lost sight of their responsibilities. Do men really think women would prefer to pursue all male responsibilities such as (just to name a few) taking out the trash, mowing the lawn, or/and taking their sons to get haircuts? But let’s face the reality some women have no other choice. Find me a hundred guys that are battling this issue of how their ladies won’t let them be a man in the relationship. Anyone up for this challenge? ….waits, blank stares! Thought so!



 No woman can stop you from being a man, just like no man can stop a woman from being a woman. In today’s world some women have had to step up and take on many different roles for themselves and their children. It’s unfortunate, but the options are slim to none. I honestly believe that men have lost the meaning of what a man really is. It’s sad to say, but some men really have had no one to teach them and now they are just uneducated on being themselves. I’m a firm believer that not all men are lost but more than half are. So when you start talking about “Let you be a man” think back and look at your peers, friends, and male family members who have been pieces of shit to women and understand the struggle/real issues the male population faces.



That’s all!



FYI---This isn’t male bashing either! Round of applause, for all the Men out there who are totally aware of their purpose in this world.



BloggItPrincess

xoxo

Thought Of The Day...

Not one person becomes successful alone....

  Some of us have ideas, these ideas become repeated thoughts... there comes a point where these thoughts must be put into action.  At this point there is no one that can stop this action, but there are many that can help with the actions becoming successful.  You must put into place a plan (POA), this plan is simple math.  There are people you add to it and those you must subtract to multiply the success.  Now if everyone sticks to the plan, as it is altered from time to time depending on situations, then the plan will be a success.  The originator of the idea could not do this alone, the most successful never do.

  Support is always needed for any success story.  Support can come from far and close depending on where you reach for it.  No we all know those close may not always show support or may pretend to support but in fact are secretly waiting for failure.  The greatest supporters are usually strangers... this is not a fact by no means but an observation.

  When putting an idea into action, present it to those close and keep it pushing.  Those willing to help will come to you and you will never have to ask twice for support.  Those that put the Supporter Facade on... keep at a distance.  Those are Supportive Haters!!!

By The Way: I had this conversation with a friend last night and she said something in regards to Supportive Haters that I totally understand.  "I'm a Gemini, it's very easy for me to be nasty but I be trying to chill tho."  My response was a chuckle and Exactly, my thoughts... it's very easy for me to give a person my ass to kiss.

Have A Blessed Day
 -Esco

Thoughts & Things...

  Never become so absorbed with your own wants that you lose sight of your loved ones needs or more importantly your own needs.  Simply that is borderline Selfish....


Be Blessed
 -Esco

Thoughts....

Look around yourself... Yup, that's your net worth!!!

 Surround yourself with what you desire.  Winners hang with Winners and losers... well you get the picture.  I remember being in the studio and the boy Ameer said something along the lines of "Bum Bitches marry Bum Niggas and have Bum Kids"  of course at the time I saw humor in it and was bugging. There is some truth in this though.

 Figure out who you are and who you want to be, if this is not one in the same then you have some work to do.  We can all always do better and become better.  Not one person is better than the next, some just use their time differently.  Choose today to create that path to where you want to be and what circles need to join you... No L7's (squares)!!!

Be Blessed

 -Esco

THOUGHTS...

I've been on a little hiatus this past weekend but I promise you guys that I have some very good stuff coming up this week.... Plenty of surprises!!!

Thanks for your patience, daily views and follows....


Be Blessed
 -Esco

THOUGHT OF THE DAY....

Do  what you have to... To get what you want!!!

  When I get up in the morning inspiration comes from everywhere.  In the first twenty minutes I check everything that my name is attached too... (usually skim through tho).  This morning my IG was lit up on my phone and as I skim I come across the homie (director) Nimi Hendrix... he was camping out for that iphone 5.  A few of the comments under the picture made it seem like he was bugging.  His only rebuttal, which made much sense to me, read: "My Mentality Is If I Want Something I Do What It Takes To Get It."

  That thought process alone often separates the successful from the "I Wishers."  Often times people are not humble enough to make sacrifices to accomplish the things in life that they want.  You're an actor but are never at casting calls, you're a music artist but never in clubs where music is played and none of the popular dj's ever heard of you... you're attempting to be a CEO of a company but never study that business market or even read a book, let alone enroll in classes pertaining to that business. 

  Make that change, do whatever it takes to get what you want... most times it's what you don't want to do but is very necessary.

Be Blessed

 -Esco



THOUGHT OF THE DAY...

Thank You....

  Usually when I wake and before my eyes even open I say Thank You.  Just showing gratitude to God.  There's not much I can ask for after that point, he has already done the biggest part by waking me.

Be Blessed

 -Esco



THOUGHT OF THE DAY...

Sometimes I don't want to be bothered.... -J Budden

(Don't have much to say, but close ya eyes and listen)

THOUGHT OF THE DAY...

Watch your surroundings...

 

  This goes for the people along with the places.  Maybe I am too analytical with everything... Or maybe I'm right on point.  The people around quite possibly may have their best interest at heart with no regard for anyone else.  This does happen you know...  My only advice this morning is, watch how everyone is moving around you. 

 

 Opportunists are what they are. One who takes advantage of any opportunity to achieve an end, often with no regard for principles or consequences. You may not hear from this person for weeks or months but when you do.... it's always because they need something from you.  I'd rather talk to people who call me once per year to ask how myself and the family are.

 

Be Blessed

 -Esco

 

 

THOUGHT OF THE DAY...

Your childhood is the biggest influence on your adulthood...

 The way you are is a direct reflection of how you were raised.  Often times I have conversations about the characteristics of people and basically it comes down to their upbringing.  If you were hugged and shown affection throughout your younger years, chances are that you turn out to be a loving and affectionate person.  You will either become three things as an adult.... just like your parents, nothing like your parents or try so hard to be nothing like them that you end up doing the things that they did and don't realize it.

 Myself and friends always discuss the foolery and ratchetness and my response is always 'They didn't get enough hugs as a kid, why else would they act that way.'

 If you're a parent that's reading this, then I suggest that you set that example of what you wish your child(ren) to become.  Remind them that you love them as often as possible and teach respect.  Fathers, hold them girls... show them what a man is and she always will have high standards and never go searching in the wrong places because she already knows what a man's love should feel like.

I'm not a psychiatrist... just a man Learning From Experience!!!

Be Blessed

 -Esco

LADIES:: Top 5 Reasons Wifey Loses Her Man to the Sidechick

The entree ain’t as good without something on the side” – Fabolous

Oh really Fab? Well, I took to twitter to find out why some main chicks lose their man to the sidechick…

 5. Do you and your man argue every other day? You may be thinking it’s cute, even looking forward to the make-up sex. But no man really wants that drama. He will call his sidechick just to ease his mind from all your bickering and then she becomes the one he confides in. Once she’s the go-to girl when he needs to vent, you are in trouble.

 4. Please don’t be the wifey that loses herself when she gets a man. You stop going to the gym. You stop hanging with your girls. You don’t stay late after work sucking up to your boss anymore. You life revolves around your man. You want to be best friends with his friends. You want to go to all his favorite places. All you want to do is spend 24/7 with your man. You quite possibly have become annoying. He may begin distancing himself from you and start entertaining someone new (sidechick). No one wants to feel smothered, even a man that loves you to death. Remember that when in a relationship, your man should compliment you, not complete you.

 3. In the words of @MeyerLansky21, wifeys lose their man simply because, “the main chick stops doing side chick shit.” To be a sidechick, takes a certain amount of arrogance. You know this man has a girl, but you think you are just soooo great that you will do any and everything his girl won’t to make him leave her and choose you. When you’re the sidechick, you bend over backwards for your fake man. Wifey, in the words of Babyface….”Don’t you…EVER…get too…comfortable“. No man wants a lazy chick. Think about it like this… whatever you won’t do, the next chick will.

 2. Did you stop wearing that sexy underwear to bed and transform into the baggy t-shirt and scarf on ya head type girl? Did you stop giving him random head (like while he’s driving or while he’s sleep) and now just do it when you have your period? Sometimes it just boils down to your man wanting that new box – but a lot of times ladies, you lose that spark in sex that kept him hooked in the first place.

 1. In a generation where a man finding someone new is as easy as checking Twitter and seeing an #availablebox tweet from a half naked, fake booty chick…..[@PotentialSideChick - Laying in bed, feeling so lonely these days, where's my boo hiding? ] …you have to realize, not all guys are going to take the time out to communicate to you, what he feels you’re lacking. He’s straight hitting her DM box. All men suffer from instant gratification. Some men think you know exactly how they feel, even when they can’t express their emotions. Well if your man is that guy, stay on top of him….always check in and make sure he’s happy. If he spends every Friday night with you, but recently he’s been “home sleep” or “not feeling well” the past few Friday nights…there’s possibly a sidechick lurking in his inbox – time to check in. Time to practice a little something we call “Preventative SideChick-ism”….as soon as you see the signs – find out what’s going on in his head and do what you can to correct it – before it’s too late.

source: IFWT

Thought Of The Day...

I know of no substance in NO...

  Often times we're all told NO as an answer to what we want or need.  That simply means not here or not now to me, because when you really want something only you can stop yourself from obtaining it.

Go Get What You Have Your Mind On!!!

Be Blessed

 -Esco 

THOUGHT OF THE DAY...

Ladies, say it once...

(clears throat) This is more like a PSA... lol

   Us guys do not need to hear what the women in our life has to say no more than one time, any more than that is called NAGGING.  Whether it is coming from our Mom, Sister, Aunt, Daughter or Life Partner... it is still Nagging.  Say it once and most of us got it... if it seems that we aren't responding in a timely manner, it may not be a priority to us. 

Be Blessed

 -Esco

Thought Of The Day....

The Only Thing Ever Expected From A Man Is ACTION... Not Much Conversing

Be Blessed

 -Esco

THOUGHT OF THE DAY...

Single Men Are Only Single Because They Want To Be...

  In a recent conversation with a friend of mine that has been married for about a year now, the topic of men and women being single and the reasons came up. We both agreed that all women are crazy, however it all depends on what level of craziness that a guy is willing to deal with.  Men can be a bit off the deep end as well but studies show in more cases women usually are. 

 

  We then were breaking down the single life... Women between 21 and 25 are usually busy finishing their education and beginning their careers which is the reason for most to be single.  At that age there really isn't any time for men besides occasional dating.  Once they choose the path they want their lives to go in, then the serious dates begin.  By 30 most want some sort of a family to begin, whether it be a husband and children or just a husband.  In most cases women want the husband by 30 and no later though.  She may be with a guy since high school or college...  If the man she is with is not husband material then she will ditch him for the single life until the husband type come along.

 

  Now, for us guys... sigh!!! From the ages of 17 through 27 our biggest concern is making money.  How can we keep money in our pockets.... then comes the thought of conquering as many women as possible.  For whatever reason we are not thinking about settling down until later.  Around the age 30 we are still getting the last bit of fun out of our systems.  If for any reason we are single, it is because we want to be.  There are plenty of women who want a man of their own but if we don't want it, it will not be.  Men become "unavailable" only when they are ready....

Message not approved by Steve Harvey, so don't quote me!!!

The thoughts of two Jersey guys over drinks.... Esco & KJB

Have A Blessed Day

  -Esco

THOUGHT OF THE DAY

Everyone wants to be known... What Are You Known For?

  It seems that nowadays everyone is seeking attention, whether it be positive or negative.  Why, why not just be regular living a regular life???? What is it that everyone is seeking???  What is it that everyone is trying to hide???  Some things that has crossed my mind in recent times....

  I have gotten the "We know the same people" or "That's my man too" and immediately my first thought is What Is It That They Know You For... It's sort of like no one wants to be who God designed them to be.

(just some thoughts as I read my messages on various social sites this morning)

Stay Blessed

 -Esco

 

THOUGHT OF THE DAY....

Pardon my absence as I make a huge transition in my life....

Stay Blessed

 -Esco

THOUGHT OF THE DAY...

Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt...

  If a person has next to nothing, how are they offering you the world?  If this person doesn't love themselves how are they so madly in love with you?  Never be so blinded by a facade that you don't see what's really in front of you.

Have A Blessed Day

 -Esco