Something we certainly don't get to hear often at all, Stress gives the black woman praises on this
track with the help of Lovel
"You're Not A Bad Bitch, You're A Good Woman"
August 1, 2014
July 31, 2014
Face To Face: Adia Gilyard on Paying It Forward
DIA: I am GREAT! Like literally, my journey has been interesting yet I'm still managing to be GREAT! My birth name is Adia Gilyard, however my greatness is more exonerated via KING DIA! I'm a mother of 2 young boys who are my greatest inspirations. They keep me pushing and wanting MORE FROM LIFE! I would like people to know me as a GIVER! Actually, a GREAT GIVER!
Esco: What is King Dia's Dishes and it's origin/foundation?
Dia: KING DIA'S DISHES is my PASSION! I absolutely LOVE to cook! I got into a debate a few months ago about my cooking. The issue was DIA! YOU DON'T COOK ENOUGH ... OMG that statement alone had me moving furniture in my place, cause I DO COOK and I COOK as much as I can, but being that I haven't married up yet, I'm not a stay at home Mom so I can't cook at every one's beckoning call. So, I was challenged by someone to show the world how great of a cook I am and watch and see how everyone will want more ... Needless to say, they were RIGHT! ... I did a trial run of King Dia's Dishes on Friday March 7th and people have been wanting MORE EVER SINCE ...
Esco: How long have you been doing King Dia's Dishes?
Dia: SINCE MARCH 7TH ... but the seed was planted in January
Esco: Where do you see this genius idea in the next five years?
Dia: Everyone asks me ALMOST EVERY DAY ... WHEN ARE YOU OPENING YOUR RESTAURANT ... I say in about 5 years! I envision my kids in high school, I won't have to be as hands on as I am now with them. I envision it being a BRAND more so than just a restaurant. Family owned and giving jobs to my young people.
Esco: Now in recent times, I've noticed you feeding the homeless. What was your ah ha moment, what made you want to be that person that help others?
Dia: My Ah Ha moment came after my 2nd time selling my dishes and I realized I had so much food left over even after my profit was made. My kids and I could only eat so much so I said NOPE WE WILL NEVER THROW FOOD AWAY! So, shortly after my epiphany I noticed my oldest son was being ungrateful and disrespectful and I had to TAKE ACTION! So from my kitchen we made 5 dinners to give to a few homeless guys in my area. It was a life lesson for my son, which actually turned into something greater. It's a routine in my home now to FEED THE LESS FORTUNATE, my boys are always keeping water and snacks and loose change in my car so we can always give back at all times. It's a habit now! #PayItForward ... So after we fed the homeless that night my son said WHEN ARE WE DOING IT AGAIN! ... I was like COOL, HE GETS IT! ... So I shared my idea with a few friends they said post it on Facebook to get donations, initially I was hesitant because I didn't want people to think I wanted praise ... I just wanted more help! BUT GOD, he turned my thoughts into things! So after posting on Facebook we 1st fed 30 people, last month 100 people ... Say he ain't do that!!!!! ... I cook all the food from my kitchen and we hand deliver, that simple!
Esco: Did you know it is illegal in most cities across America to feed people on the street? However you can create a food bank for them to come to and eat.
Dia: It's illegal in New Jersey too unless you have a permit **wink***wink***
Esco: Do you plan on going non profit with what you're doing?
Dia: People want me too ... honestly, I'm on the fence. I don't want the paperwork involved or people pointing fingers. I just Wanna keep putting good out, feed my people, show my kids right from wrong and just do it every month until it gets wack. BUT YOU SEE, GIVING NEVER GETS WACK ... SOOOOO
Esco: I like what you're doing and plan to involve myself with what you're doing whenever I'm in town.
Dia: AUGUST 10TH BE THERE AT 11AM
Esco: Is there anything you would like to include that I didn't cover?
DIA: WANT EVERY ONE TO KNOW THAT BECAUSE OF YOU, I BELIEVE
THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS!!!! THANK YOU.
Esco: And you are the reason that I decided to revisit the blog world..... thank you for embracing my crazy positive affirmations!!!
March 7, 2013
The Minds Of A Gemini On Social Sites
So often it is suggested to me that I should write a book or get
back to blogging when commenting on social sites. I have even had an
author friend stay on my heels about starting my outline. Honestly,
there is so much on my mind at all times that I wouldn't know where to
begin. As far as the blogging goes; I was more so sharing music,
fashion and my honest thought of that morning. These topics are my
loves in life but not exactly my make up of my life. I thrive off of
experiences.
A little background of myself includes being a father, son, brother
and a business man. I'm sure you may know someone who also quotes
that line from Jay-Z stating they too are a "Business Maaan." If it
seems profitable and brings forth growth personally for me, then where
do I sign up? As far as business, I have been an auto mechanic by
trade and an entertainment manager by blessings. Life is constantly
evolving and with each opportunity I do the same. I'm taking this
opportunity to enlighten others on my perspective from past or present
experiences.
In my experiences with social sites, there has been much that others
relate to and much that I can only appreciate. Social sites get so
much flack for exposing certain elements of a person or even ruining
relationships. How a person is on these sites are not necessarily the
actual values a person may possess, as often times the text may not
deliver the way intended. Some seek attention while others are very
driven to give it. I once posted the question 'Who's thirstier, the
woman half naked posing or the two hundred guys that left comments?'
I believe people are who they are without the help of others or these
sites. Of course some present themselves to be a certain way, but
people also do the same in person. Social media has helped me
tremendously with certain aspects of business, therefore I tip my hat
to those that took their idea and created such sites.
Social sites are great networking and business tools when used
wisely. Social networking sites like Facebook, Google+, LinkedIn,
Instagram or Twitter can be an effective way to market events,
products and public presentations. These sites can also be helpful in
selling your art work, posting performances, engaging in discussions
with audiences and fans, along with research and development for new
opportunities and ideas. Different sites have different purposes,
users and functionalities.
This of course is my perspective, now enjoy that of my friend Sonja.
Oh wow after an in depth intro like that,where do I begin? Lol
Much like my friend Esco I too have been told plenty of times to put thoughts on paper or on a blog for others to see. My mind is like an ever changing puzzle, the piece that fit yesterday may not tomorrow. I'm always thinking of the next step, sometimes so much that I don't fully enjoy the now.
I'm a college graduate(currently pursuing a master's degree) who's working toward the ultimate goal of opening my own group home. My passion for helping those who can't help themselves pushes me to constantly remain humble and do what I can to help whenever I'm able. Young black girls hold a dear place in my heart because the "world" doesn't allow us to see how great we truly are. The days of "ladies being ladies" have vanished into thin air. Long gone are the times where girls jumped rope, played with dolls and shooed little nosey boys away. I'm only one person but every opportunity I get to empower our babies and even our adults, I will!
Social media does have it's good qualities. I have reconnected with friends I haven't seen since grade school, old crushes I parted ways with many moons ago lol and family I have never met. But for every good thing, there has to be some bad(way of the world). Plenty of these sites have placed people on unrealistic pedestals and given folks this false sense of entitlement. "Likes" have become the new age "yes men". It's given those who don't have a strong sense of self the validation they seek not knowing it can only be found WITHIN self.
I mean don't get me wrong, we women ALL have posed seductively in pics whether you tooting it for the camera or showing some cleavage but if more than half of your photos show this, then there's a problem. If the majority of your posts are geared toward sex, there's a problem. If you expect ANYONE to respect or take you seriously while displaying this, then there's a SERIOUS problem. The quote "Only God Can Judge Me" can only take you but so far.
What you SHOW is what you BECOME to others! This all comes back to my passion for empowerment. If they knew better from a young child, they'd definitely do better as an adult.
Signed,
Sonja and Esco
Signed,
Sonja and Esco
December 5, 2012
Thoughts and Things... The Kel Spencer Edition
#WarriorPoet- 
"They both looked at each other in relief that it’s finally almost over. See, Greg and Samantha were taking a 90-day intensive orientation for their new job. Their new careers, required that they (along with 11 others) spend 90-days at the training facilities to fully understand the nuances of the company. The group was allowed limited physical contact with their loved ones, which forced them to become very close over these 90 days… Greg and Samantha got a little too close and Greg’s wife’s female intuition kicked in once he came home from orientation. On the last day of Orientation, Greg and Samantha had a few drinks, and Samantha made it known what she wanted from Greg and how badly she wanted it. A few days later, Greg’s wife rolled over in the middle of the night, turned on the lamp and said, “Greg, I know you want her. You’re a man, she’s an attractive woman, I get it. My question to you is, do you love her or is this just a physical thing?” Greg was honest enough to tell her that it was just physical. She then replied with, “Well, just this once, go… have sex with her and get it out of your system. But I don’t want to hear about it after this.” What are your thoughts??
Tommy and Patricia are excited about having their first child. Patricia is due in 2 months and they’re starting to pick out baby names for the little girl who’s on the way. After a brief discussion, Tommy insists that the baby be named Veronica. That wasn’t Patricia’s top choice but she agrees. Fast forward 2 years later, Tommy’s mom asks that the couple come over and help her clean out her basement. As Patricia and Tommy’s mom are going through boxes, they come across Tommy’s old High School year book. The entire 2 pages of centerfold has an 18-picture collage of a young Tommy madly in love with his High School sweetheart… Veronica. Hmmm… What do you think?
Jimmy and Clarissa dated on and off for years. Jimmy was always into Clarissa but he wasn’t sure if he could be with her because Clarissa has a child and that’s a major commitment for Jimmy. As of late, Jimmy has been getting more and more into church and because of that, he came to the realization that because God is the one true father over us all, as a man, he has the ability to step up to the plate and also be a father to a boy who may not biologically be his own. And since, the child’s father is virtually non-existent, Jimmy recognized that there wouldn’t be any Baby Daddy drama so he decided to commit to being in his first ever monogamous relationship with Clarissa. Jimmy continued to grow in his spirituality and started to develop a certain disgust when it came to sin, especially sexual sins (ie Lust, Adultery, Fornication, etc…). At that point, he decided that he and Clarissa should stop having sex out-of-wedlock. Clarissa respected that decision and they stopped. Later, during a conversation with Clarissa and her (4-year old) son, Jimmy learned that the reason the son’s father has ZERO contact with them is because he lives states away, with his two other children and his WIFE. His wife doesn’t want him having contact with Clarissa and the son because the son’s father cheated on his wife with Clarissa and that’s how the son… Jimmy’s new non-biological son was born. Given Jimmy’s new view on Adultery, and the fact that these details are now being disclosed after he’s already in this relationship, along with the idea that the son will eventually discover what a side-chick means AND that he was conceived under those circumstances made that an interesting situation for me because… Ooops, I mean for Jimmy! Yeah, for Jimmy! But ummm… yeah, how would you feel? : /
The previous scenarios are all closely connected to this Side-Chick epidemic. In scenario 1, Is there a difference between thinking someone is attractive and actually being attracted to them? Or is it all the same?? In story #2, Is it ok that you’re in a relationship and getting devotion from a person who may not have an actual physical person on the side but they’re only giving you a percentage of their emotional investment while the rest of it is being spent on someone else? In situation #3, If you have a certain view-point on Side-Chick syndrome yet you’ve unknowingly committed to a side-chick OR the results of a person’s side-chick ways, do you just eat that or do you leave the situation? My overall point is, the term “Side-Chick” is supported by the underlying theme of emotional displacement. Your emotions should be over here, yet they’re all the way over there somewhere. And we’re all guilty of this in varying degrees. I’m wondering if we all need to start taking ourselves to emotional school at some point. Take a listen to the song below as it has a little to do with cheating, emotional immaturity, Side-Chick Syndrome and more. It’s from my 2009 Release called “Salon Stories” featuring and produced by my brother from another mother, Sonny Brix! And if you haven’t already checked out Side-Chick Syndrome Pt. 1 then YOU’RE PLAYING YOURSELF lol!!"
Thoughts and Things.... Kel Spencer Edition
#WarriorPoet- SIDE-CHICK SYNDROME Pt. 1
"I had an interesting talk with a woman recently. Her words were, “In today’s world, I’ll be a side-chick all day!” Wait, Wait… Let me paint the picture for you before I proceed. Now, close your eyes and… Hmmm… You can’t exactly read with your eyes closed huh. Ok, keep ‘em open. Peep the scenery; The 4pm alarm sounded on Friday. All of the factory workers took off their hard hats and wiped the sweat from their brows while forming a small smirk because it was Friday. That means it’s payday, and the weekend is here. They lined up at the trailer to clock out and get their paychecks. Not many of them had bank accounts at the time, after all this is the 1950′s BUT they would all take their checks to get them cashed. They would then follow their regular routine of taking about 80% of it home to their wife, kissing her on the cheek and then spending the weekend with their girlfriend.
Sounds crazy huh… Well, believe it or not, this was an on-going ‘practice’ for many men back then… (Actually, it’s still happening today in varying degrees). And it wasn’t/isn’t specific to any particular race. Men would spend the week with their wife and kids. They would be fully responsible for their household (at least superficially) from bills to fixing things around the home to teaching little Johnny how to swing a bat. But on the weekends, they would gladly slide on over to their side chick’s house. And sometimes, this side chick would be the mother of his other child or children. YES, Sometimes this dude would have an entire other family. I know people who are all too familiar with this type of set up and I actually have an uncle who is/was “that dude.” To top it all off, the wife knows about the side-chick and the same for the inverse. Now, they’re not cool with each other. And their children don’t play with each other but they each know that the other exists. And the bottom line for allowing this to happen is some good ole Vitamin S.
Like I was saying, I had an interesting talk with a woman recently who said that she actually prefers being a ‘side joint.’ She stated all of her reasons why. She shared experiences in which she had on-going relationships with married men. Sometimes the man’s wife knew about her. Sometimes he didn’t. Sometimes they’d go out-of-town to meet. Sometimes it was right in their own backyards. Blah Blah Blah… As you know, I never judge people, which is why most of the people around me, feel secure enough to share their inner most thoughts and feelings with me. And as much as I have my own thoughts and feelings about this situation, I do understand her logic because it all was supported by her need, want and desire for Vitamin S. She then asked,
“Why do you think that women get turned on when they see a wedding band on a man?“
She then went on to explain that in her mind, most women won’t marry trash. A husband provides(or at least SHOULD provide) valuable assets to a household. These are things that women are programmed to want since we were girls. A wedding band represents that and when women (especially in a world where some of us women only have slim pickings to choose from) see a wedding band on a man, it turns some of us on because it indirectly implies that he can supply that good ole Vitamin S. And S stands for SECURITY. He may not always be there to fix my leaky faucet. He may not be there every night to hold me. He may not be there for me to share my day with him but the fact that I know that he has it in him to supply Vitamin S, even if it’s not 100% in my direction, I’d much rather have that then have the scary uncertainty of one of these jerks who claim to be men but don’t have it all together. And my good people, I have been out on numerous occasions with some of my married homeboys and man oh man, when they see that wedding band, some of these women flock to them like a moth to a flame!
I was shocked to hear her actually say it. I mean, you know that there are people who subscribe to this train of thought and you see it all of the time but to see her lips actually form the syllables and audible lexicon was astounding. And guess what, she is a part of a growing population of women who are absolutely fine with having side-chick syndrome and getting their dose of Vitamin S regardless of whose man it is. Sometimes, in addition to the Vitamin S, there’s money, or status, or career advancement, or just some quality happy horizontal goingz on, with no real commitment and/or attachment. And that’s perfectly fine with them! Moreover, when the ‘main-chicks’ are willing to form an understanding and some form of agreement with their man having side-chicks, it makes the relationship landscape for the future a very interesting one. And I’ll tell you what, with things like this floating around in the media, (of which I co-sign NOTHING) don’t be surprised of a law allowing “Polygamy” (with some form of financial gain for the economy of course) goes into effect down the road."
#Salute Kel Spencer
November 27, 2012
November 21, 2012
IN STUDIO:: Rsonist, Fred The God & Emilio Rojas
Take a step into Diamond District Studios w/ Rsonist (Heatmakerz) and watch as he works with Fred the Godson & Emilio Rojas. Episode 1
November 20, 2012
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